Updated: Jan 9
IS YOUR SPECIFIC PERSON NOT HONORING YOU? DISRESPECTING YOU?
IGNORING YOU? THIS POST IS FOR YOU!
You're going to want to hear all of these tips in order to get your Specific Person to actually start valuing you, and SPOILER ALERT: it's got to come from within first.
Now this is a huge topic, because a lot of people are manifesting a specific person. A lot of
people are using their ENTIRE, INFINITE, ABUNDANT POWER to laser their target focus onto this one tiny little person. Or as I like to say, they're trying to cut a sandwich with a death ray. Unfortunately what happens when we are using all of this power to focus on something super minute, we end up over-killing - burning an ant with a magnifying glass. We're putting SO much focus and pressure on ourselves to create this ONE SITUATION and make it go the right way, that we're ACTUALLY standing in the way and creating the very barriers and boundaries between us and this person by our ACTIONS and our NEED to have it happen and for them to love us, be with us, or pay attention to us.
SO IF YOUR SPECIFIC PERSON IS NOT HONORING YOU, GUESS WHAT?
It means you're not honoring yourself.
● Ignoring you
● Not paying attention to you
● Putting you on the back burner
● Treating you as a fallback crutch
You are not prioritizing yourself first. If you don't prioritize yourself, the rest of the world can't prioritize you either. They are a reflection of you.
YOUR WORLD IS A MIRROR! So whatever is going on in your life, and however you're being
treated by people and situations, it's very easy to see what might be causing it because it's a
If somebody is not giving you their attention, that means that somewhere in your belief
● You don't feel worthy
● You're not giving it to yourself
● You doubt that you're capable of receiving this attention/love
You have some sort of thought about yourself, what you deserve, or how the world should
treat you, and THAT is what is manifesting through your Specific Person.
SO, HOW DO WE DEAL WITH THAT?
First things first, you need to quit putting them on a pedestal. They are not that freaking special; YOU are special. YOU are the magic one; not them. They are a blob of energy that you are ALLOWING to be in your existence and GIVING your lead co-star role to.
They are just a place filler for the emotions that you want to feel:
They're a place filler that you're ALLOWING to exist. It's a blob of energy that you're calling
“insert their name here.” You're LITERALLY giving this person life, ALLOWING them to exist in your world, and YOU’RE DEFINING HOW THEY EXIST.
So if they - being YOUR creation and manifestation - are ignoring you, it’s because
YOU are selecting a reality and version of them that does not value you.
YOU NEED TO START STEPPING INTO YOUR POWER!
You need to understand your role here in your world, and that EVERYTHING - EVERYTHING -
EVERYTHING revolves around and responds to you. Your world is in existence because you
are plugged into the matrix. So there's NO WAY that you could be unworthy of the world
you are experiencing in this game you’re playing in, because you're the only one playing.
You're the only one with a controller. So if you weren't worthy of experiencing all the cool things that life has to offer, you wouldn't even be alive.
So cut those ideas that:
● You're NOT good enough
● People CAN’T love you
● You HOPE that they will
● You think that they MIGHT NOT
That's all bullshit, and you are corralling yourself into these parameters that YOU have
decided are surrounding you. You're putting yourself in a tiny little box and saying,
“I'm only capable of experiencing these things.”AND THAT'S NOT TRUE.
IF YOUR SPECIFIC PERSON ISN'T WITH YOU, THEN THEY'RE NOT WITH ANYBODY.
You need to have an attitude like, “Okay, you're not with me - who are you going to be with?! LITERALLY, because no one else exists in this reality.
So if you're not with me, then YOU DON'T EXIST. And you don't get to be here UNLESS you're treating me #1, putting me first, respecting me, and giving me what I need.”
And that comes from your own PERSONAL STANDARDS. You need to decide, IN THIS
MOMENT, RIGHT NOW, “I'm creating all of this. I am going to STOP creating a reality where things are limited for me.
I'm going to STOP creating a reality where circumstances keep me confined in a pen that I
don't like.” You're creating a new bottom rung that we're not going to allow anybody - INCLUDING OURSELVES - to treat us any less than. We're saying, “From now on, I DESERVE respect.
From now on, I AM respected.
I RESPECT MYSELF.
I GIVE MYSELF love and attention.
I PRIORITIZE MYSELF.
I PUT MY OWN NEEDS FIRST, because EVERYTHING in my world flows out from within.
So if MY needs aren't met, the rest of the world cannot show them to me.”
It cannot come to you from outside. It has to start within and flow outward, then it comes back to you. It's energy, it flows. It goes in, and it goes out. You have to start being comfortable with BOTH the giving and the taking.
YOU NEED TO BE GIVING YOURSELF WHAT YOU ARE MISSING FROM
YOUR SPECIFIC PERSON.
Be your OWN Specific Person.
● Give yourself attention
● Treat yourself better
● Compliment yourself
● Take yourself out on dates
● Get a pedicure
● Stay at home and work on your mental health
Stay at home instead of going out and looking to sleep with random strangers at a bar, that
just makes you feel more worthless at the end of the day. Stop jumping whenever your
Specific Person calls you, set your own personal boundaries, and say, “No, I'm not going to come to you just because you called. I've been here for days or weeks waiting for a text from you, and now you want me to come to your beck and call at 2AM? I DON’T THINK SO.
You can contact me during waking hours.”
We're setting new standards for ourselves, and we're not allowing ANYTHING to penetrate
below that level.
WHAT DO YOU DO IF SOMETHING DOES HAPPEN IN YOUR WORLD
THAT DOES NOT ALIGN WITH THAT NEW VALUE SET?
You need to REDIRECT, REFOCUS, RESUBMIT, REAFFIRM, RE-ACKNOWLEDGE:
● Who I am
● What I'm here to do
● What my power is
● How great it is
● How it affects everything that I touch
You HAVE to make yourself #1.
If YOU don't put yourself in the #1 spot, thinking that you’re the coolest thing since sliced
bread and this is the only show in town, HOW COULD ANYBODY ELSE POSSIBLY THINK THAT ABOUT YOU? How could they reflect back to you a feeling that is non-existent within you? That's just not the kind of reality that we live in. We live in a vibrational reality, and the 3D world responds to our INNER FEELINGS and PERSISTENT THOUGHTS. So your new persistent thoughts NEED to be about how:
● Awesome you are
● You're the hot ticket
● You're the hot thing
● You're the only thing
BECAUSE YOU ARE!
There's LITERALLY no one else they could be with in your reality, EXCEPT FOR YOU. They
have their own reality, and they get to make decisions in that one.
That's not this one, this one's YOURS.
YOU decide how you're treated, YOU decide what you deserve, and you DON’T accept
anything less. Don't ask, “How high?” when someone tells you to jump. You say, “YOU JUMP! This is my world. I jump when I feel like jumping. If you're on board with that,
great. If you're not, BYE!”
Make sure to keep up your MENTAL DIET and are FLIPPING and/or REDIRECTING your
thoughts if you find yourself:
From what this person did.
And importantly, DON’T TRY TO STOP FEELING.
That's a big thing I see. People ask me,
“How do I stop these thoughts? How do I stop thinking about this?”
You can't stop thinking. You're always thinking.
It's a lot harder to STOP thinking about something when you’re CONSTANTLY reminding
yourself of the very thoughts you’re wanting to forget. When you try to force it like that,
then THOSE thoughts gain momentum.
WHAT YOU NEED TO DO IS REDIRECT.
Change the direction of your thoughts to:
● I am worthy
● I am valuable
● I am the boss, applesauce
● This is the show
● This is the only ticket in town
You need to re-cement these affirmations to yourself EVERY TIME you start thinking about your SP or going down the road of sadness and negative thought momentum. USE that inner power, SWIT it the other direction, and START thinking about how:
● Awesome your life is
● Everyone respects you
● People respect your time
● They find you to be enthralling
● They want to be around you
● They're hanging off your every word
And you NEED to start treating yourself as such.
“I'm important, and I'm not going to just bend my will or my standards for somebody else
who’s not showing me that value."
LOOK AT THE ACTIONS THAT YOUR SPECIFIC PERSON IS DISPLAYING.
Are they ignoring you? They're not giving you attention?
That can signal to yourself that:
● You don't FEEL worthy for their attention
● You're not giving it to YOURSELF
● You're not putting YOURSELF first
● You're not honoring YOURSELF
● You’re allowing them to treat you BELOW a certain standard
How are they not prioritizing you? How are they mistreating you?
Look at the actual specific actions that are manifesting in your life, and ask yourself,
“How do I feel about these things?
Why do I have these certain hangups?
Why do I manifest people that leave me?
Why do I fear that people aren't going to stay?
Why do I attract people that don't see my value?”
Incorporate these questions into your MODULE 1 exercise, and get to the bottom of these
beliefs so you can flip them into the reality where you are PRIORITIZING YOURSELF, and are
attracting someone who PRIORITIZES YOU.
PUT YOURSELF IN THE DRIVERS SEAT. PUT YOURSELF IN THE
“I give to myself what I need from the world.”
Add this to your SCRIPTING and cement this idea in your mind, because it has to start in
there first. It can't come from the outside and go within, it has to come from within first. It starts at the vibrational level.
It starts with you GIVING YOURSELF what you want to see reflected back to you.
● Value yourself
● Put yourself first
● Tell yourself that you are important
Then treat yourself as such.
Because when YOU decide to show YOURSELF that value, put YOURSELF first, and give
YOURSELF that level of respect - THE REST OF THE WORLD CAN NOW RESPECT YOU.
No person is going to show you respect if you can't respect yourself.
They can’t, because you're not being a respectable person. You aren’t displaying the
qualities of a person that garners respect. That's how the rest of the world will see us,
because they're a reflection of us.
So you are now the DRIVER of the car, the DIRECTOR of the show. You have STANDARDS that you will NOT step below, and you will NOT accept anyone else to treat you below. And if they do?
“You need to move on or you need to treat me with respect. This is how it goes. End of story.”