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10 Things That STOP Us From Being Our Best Self And Achieving Inner Happiness!

There are many barriers and external forces that may serve to block us from reaching our truest selves and achieving ultimate happiness. Deep down, we all want a life filled with abundance, love and happiness. These are the top 20 things that prevent us from being our best selves:

  • We are often terrified and living in fear, which can cause us to remain stagnant. Fear makes us uncomfortable to go after the things we desire. We may experience fear of the unknown, fear of not being secure, or even fear of failure. We have to allow ourselves to move forward and not worry about the outcome. You never know if you don’t try. It is better to fail a million times than to live in a constant state of fear.

2. Expectations

  • We tend to be way too hard on ourselves. No one is perfect and we are all human. We need to approach the aspects of our lives with acceptance, an open mind and a little more curiosity. Unrealistic expectations put pressure on us. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Plus, expectations manifest, so we must upgrade our expectations!

  • Sometimes we want things to happen on our timetable. We don’t care how it gets done, we just know that we want it to come immediately. We have to trust that the universe and divine timing will play its part. You are doing all of the right things, in the right place in time. Don’t rush. Enjoy the ride and you'll reach your destination before you know it!

  • Society, our family and friends, and the internet have shaped our minds and planted seeds which have grown into the limiting beliefs that we now have. Limiting beliefs trap us and keep us from reaching our best selves. We can be and do whatever we want in this life. If you set your heart on something, don't let your limiting beliefs destroy your mindset. Stay positive and chase after what you desire. You owe it to yourself.

  • Have you ever heard the saying that you attract what you are? If you have a negative perspective about your life, goals and achievements, that is the that is the direction you will go in your life. The world is a reflection of all of our thoughts and assumptions. If we constantly worry and focus on our problems and struggles, similar circumstances will continue to show up. When we think positively, we attract more positivity into our lives!

6. Not Living in the Present

  • “Today is a gift, that’s why we call it the present”. Yet, sometimes we cling tightly onto our past. We choose to relive the moments that are already gone. But, this stops us from living and creating brand new, incredible memories. We need to learn to live in the moment and chase our future dreams, rather than dwelling on things that have come and gone.

  • We come in all different shapes and sizes, from all different cultures and we all share different backgrounds. Yet, sometimes we get so caught up in what others are doing, wondering how much progress they’re making, and how quickly their success comes to them, that we put ourselves down for not being on the same exact path. There’s always going to be someone who is smarter, more clever, beautiful or talented than you. But, there’s one thing nobody could ever do better than you, and that’s BEING YOU. Accept that we are different. If we were all the same and on the same path, life would be boring.

8. Hiding in Comfort Zones

  • When we’re comfortable or feel secure in a specific environment or situation, we tend to not want to move on from it. Some people fear change. But, hiding in a comfort zone inhibits your growth. We shouldn’t hold ourselves back from chasing our dreams just because we are afraid of the unknown. We have to take risks to learn and grow. It’s a part of life.

  • When we constantly seek validation and acceptance from others, we give away our inner peace, energy and power. Our focus should remain on our own life experiences and how we feel about ourselves. This goes hand-in-hand with showing yourself love and acceptance, assuring that you won’t need others to confirm how worthy and valuable you are.

10. Putting Your Happiness on Hold

  • There is no better time than right now for you to choose to be happy. We tend to try and wait for everything to be perfectly aligned in our lives to allow ourselves happiness. There is no perfect moment. We don’t have to struggle in sadness and hardship waiting for a time to be happy. We should be happy right now. We should learn to appreciate all that we have now and not play the waiting game for things to be perfect in our lives.

These are just 10 of the most common reasons that we hold ourselves back from reaching our truest, most authentic selves. Instead of searching for temporary things to fill the void, we should look at all the things that prevent our growth and release them, so we can begin to thrive.

Need a little extra help on your journey to self-love and self-acceptance? Are you ready to be your truest, most authentic self? Join me at my Self-Love & Deep Connection workshop, Thursday, July 15th from 3PM to 5PM PST. Let’s dive deeper and unlock your ultimate happiness!

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